“Self love is an ocean and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.”
~ Beau Taplin ||Self Love
The title “Be Your First Love” may seem very catchy and may eventually garner lot of attention. But believe me or not, at some point of our lives it’s one of the toughest things we could have ever done. Think of such situations or times when loving ourselves was the toughest thing to do. The loneliness which can break you apart in those sleepless nights, can fix your heart at times like nothing. The heart and body which we will have to carry till grave is our own, yet falling in love with ourselves accepting our shortcomings seems to be tough.
We as individuals are complex and full of passions, strengths, weaknesses and insecurities. Our life may seem perfect yet be full of hidden discomforts. Often these discomforts lead to insecurities, corroding our happy smiles. We may not be the best in all the roles we perform, but that’s just fine. Stop being covertly judgemental about yourself and stop fitting in every role. At times loving yourself is a priority and your happiness should matter to you the most. Our happiness often becomes dependent on the people around us, making us vulnerable. People in our life can be a reason for our happiness, but should not be the ultimate source of it. Life doesn’t mean a box full of presents, but a road trip full of hurdles. Love your company and pamper yourself at those lazy weekends. Prepare a meal for yourself, watch your favourite movie or read a book which were planning to read from long. Take a trip through memory lane, pat your back for all the tough days you have successfully gone pass. Smile for those memories which made you cry, feel blessed!
Be different, be real. Your individuality should not be boxed in the mainstream way to fit into societal norms. The do’s and don’ts shouldn’t be a way of framing your personality, be a soul full of energy – mature yet childish, messy at times but tough enough to handle the blows. Love yourself and celebrate the complex and commendable piece of art we all are born as. Of all the things that bother you in life, the feeling of not being enough, is worst. Change yourself only if you feel to and never to fit in. Realise that you can’t get everything in one life, let few wishes be unfulfilled and smile for all the great things you have got. Smile and smile without reasons, have that infectious energy in your uncensored smile.
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By- Debolina Ghosh